Using a little or a lot of restraint on its own can be extremely sexy and strangely satisfying. In order to take full advantage of your increased sensitivity why not incorporate a little sensation play or spanking into your lives. To get a real feel for the sensation and satisfaction of being restrained its key to appropriately take control of the situation. You want to keep that naughty boy or girl in their place, but you don’t want to ruin the mood by actually hurting them do you?
You may have tied your partner’s hands safely behind their back, but yours are still free to wonder. So, as with any bondage play or BDSM it’s of the utmost importance to agree on a safe word or phrase and to discuss boundaries before committing to anything.
One of the biggest safety concerned when using restraints is reduced circulation. If you or your partner have any tingling sensations, numbness, drop in body temperature or change of skin colour while using restraints it’s important that the restraints are immediately removed. We recommend using the simple two finger rule (leaving enough space for one or two fingers to be placed between the restraint and skin) to avoid any loss of circulation. We also recommend tying restraints above and below any joints and to avoid attaching or tying restraints in such a way that would cause restricted breathing. Always have a pair of scissors to hand in case a situation arises in which you need to be cut or cut someone out of a restraint.
Allow for a finger or two between the restraint and skin especially around areas such as the- rib cage, throat and wrists.
Expand the pressure points where possible
Get the blood flowing after removing restraints by applying warmth
talk about boundaries and decide on a safe word or phrase before engaging in any bondage/BDSM
Stop immediately if any pain or signs of circulatory problems occur
Remove the restraints very carefully
Have a pair of blunt scissors to hand in case of an emergency
Leave your partner tied up unattended
Try suspension bondage without being trained to do so
Use a gag unless you’re both comfortable to do so and have a safe action
Use restraints if your partner has heart/respiratory/circulatory problems
Attach a restraint to your partner in a way that could restrict their breathing
Put any pressure on joints, nerves or veins by tying restraints on them
Leave your partner restrained for prolonged periods of time. Always take small breaks every now and again.
Types of Restraints that can be used
So before you go and tie your partner up it’s important that you familiarise yourself with the different types of restraints available. So at Kinky Fetish Bondage we have simplified it for you;
Handcuffs and wrist cuffs will certainly stop your naughty partner for reaching out for things they shouldn’t. They also heighten senses encouraging a deeper sexual satisfaction. Cuff your partner from behind, in front or to other restraints. Handcuffs are perfect for beginners to add a little bondage play.
Badly behaved partners may find them unable to move an inch with their ankles fastened forcibly together or to other restraints. There’s a vast variety of designs and materials available. Ankle cuffs accompany handcuffs/wrist cuffs perfectly.
Although seriously sexy, arm binders are not for the fainthearted. Recommended for the more experienced restrainer/restrainee as these can hurt the shoulders and effect the hand circulation if used wrong. Once more comfortable using restraints and you have become more experienced and flexible you need to give arm binders a go.
Perfect for use with other restraints bondage mitts are sure to stop disobedient fingers trying to search for a way to escape. Further increasing sensitivity by completely restricting touch.
There’s nothing sexier than watching your partner beg for freedom while having an escape route right in front of them Door restraints add a bit of spice to any sex play and are the perfect addition to BDSM.
A humbler is guaranteed to bring him to his knees in next to no time. An effective CBT device that will also terrify him as it restricts movement completely. A cuff clamps around the bottom of the scrotum, and a central bar goes behind the thighs and buttocks. Any sharp or false movements may result in extreme pain. This device is humble by name but certainly not nature. This is definitely not recommended for novices.
Spreader bars locks your partner into the perfect position for penetration, or humiliation play, depending on what tickles your fancy. There are quite a variety of spreader bars available. Some of which are lined with soft materials for comfort and satisfaction, and typically have cuffs that fasten to the ankles and wrists. Many different positions can be achieved by using spreader bars.
A collar can be the perfect way to symbolise your submissive status. In a vast variety of different forms including posture, slave and bondage collars. Made from many different materials most have a D-ring for attaching a lead or other restraints. It’s important to always choose a collar that’s the correct size. Ensure that its not too tight so that it doesn’t restrict breathing.
Straitjackets are extremely durable with no hope of escape and will certainly keep things hot in the BDSM department. But this jacket isn’t for the novice. A straitjacket can cause pain in the shoulders and result in loss of circulation. So make sure your a seasoned restrainer/restarinee before reaching for the straitjacket.
Under Bed Restraints
Under Bed restraints are ideal for the novice restrainer/restrainee. Turn your bedroom into a bondage playground and ensure your partner really knows their place. Easily set up, and held in place under your mattress. These are portable and can be taken off and reapplied to any bed. Meaning that you can take them away on that naughty weekend away.
Body harnesses are typically used during suspension bondage and can also be used to to keep partners or slaves tied up and kept exactly where you want them. Suspension bondage should never be used without proper training as it can be very dangerous. Harnesses come with multiple rings attached for connecting with other restraints.
If you’re slightly bored of normal bog standard restraint then perhaps your ready to step it up a notch and use some rope. Rope gives bondage play a slightly more authentic feel to being restrained. Not only will it look the part its durable, robust and will stop your partner from escaping or even trying to. We recommend researching different types of knots and practicing before getting stuck in with your partner.
Sleepsacks & Vacuum Beds
Sleep isn’t an option when introducing Sleepsacks and Vacuum beds to the mix. Made to completely restrict movement and cling tightly to the body making you very tempting to your master. Sleepsacks and vacuum beds enhance your senses and make every tantalising and tormenting touch optimised and accentuated. Some cover you head to toe while others cover everything but the face and head. The full head to toe sleepsacks and vacuum beds aren’t recommended for beginners as breathing can be restricted.
Bondage tape is durable, flexible and easy to be cut freed from. It can come in a variety of colours and you can even create your own amazing fetish wear from it. Although the ideal movement restrictor it’s important not to tie your partner up too tightly with tape as it can restrict circulation.
Time to Heal
If your assuming play is over as soon as the restraints have been removed…think again. The restrainee may be a little stiff having been restrained in one position for a long period of time. Release the restrainee gently and slowly. Give him or her a sexy, sensual massage and gently soothe the pressure points. It’s also a good idea to have a warm blanket, towel or hot water bottle nearby to stimulate the blood flow back o normal. Always remember the after play is as important as the play itself.